How to Stop Being Shy in a Relationship

When you are in a new relationship, it can be hard to overcome shyness, but it will fade away over time. Here are a few things you can do to help the process along.

Steps

1. Remember that this person likes you. Sometimes the reason we feel shy is because we're worried someone will reject us, make fun of us, or not like us anymore. This person is already your boyfriend/girlfriend, though, so they already like you! Being shy will not make them like you more. In fact, it might make them like you less, because they probably want to get to know you. 

2. Spend more time with your boyfriend/girlfriend, if you can. The more time you spend together, the sooner you'll feel comfortable and open around them.

• Spending time alone is better because if you're around strangers your shyness is exacerbated.

3. Do some activities that you really enjoy. For example, if you love roller skating, go roller skating together! Doing something that you always enjoy doing will help you feel comfortable, which will reduce your shyness. It will also bring you closer together as a couple.

4. Talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend about your shyness. They might get the mistaken impression that you do not like them anymore. Make sure to remind him/her by saying something like "I'm really shy, and it'll take some time for me to open up, but I really do like being with you, even though I may not express it very openly." If you are too shy to say this, write it in a note and give it to them.

Tips

• Never feel like you have to do something, relax